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Heal Your Anxious Attachment by Jennifer Nurick

4.4 ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️+


“Reparenting your inner child” sums this up nicely. The book title is a bit misleading, as you have to understand the definition of anxious attachment and avoidance attachment to realize this book is for everyone, not just people with anxiety.


“The inner child is part of you that remembers everything that happened in your childhood and is still looking for the co-regulation that was inconsistent or nonexistent from your caregivers.”

🧘🏼‍♀️ The foundation of this book touches on a path I have been exploring for over a decade, and it has completely shaped the way I treat my inner self. Reaching into the source of where our inner dialogue and learned reactionary behavior stems (childhood) and rewiring our brains to allow ourselves grace, acceptance and boundaries for protection.


“An estimated 58 percent of people have one of the three insecure attachment adaptations: anxious, avoidant, and disorganized.”

“Insecurely attached infants are more likely to report illness thirty years later than those who were securely attached, and insecure attachment is linked to higher rates of obesity in US preschool-aged children.”

🎧 This book offers a step-by-step approach based on research and years of practice, along with free audio guided meditations (I highly recommend! She has a soothing voice) to getting in tune with your inner self and reshaping our neural networks for positivity instead of the pre-existing negativity that invokes fear-based reactions. There is a spirituality aspect as well, as you are tapping into your inner and higher consciousness - which will not be everyone’s cup of tea, but I have a hard time separating mind-body-soul, so this is right down my alley.


“I felt alone and betrayed, without anyone to support me. This is where I abandoned myself without knowing it. I was so disconnected from my core self and afraid of being rejected further that I struggled to set boundaries to protect myself.”

🗓️ I love the challenge to hold a new belief pose twice a day. What a freeing and positive experience to shape our negative thoughts into positive action. I have personally experienced tears when doing a tree pose, leaving me feeling so exposed and vulnerable, but also bold and free. This is a book, that if truly implemented into practice, can be life changing for anyone.


“Unless you consciously create new networks, you will use the old ones. You might have an old script that says, When I’m sad, buy something, and I’ll feel better, and every time you do this, you strengthen that script, making it more likely that the next time you feel sad, you will buy something. You do this compulsively because that is how your brain is wired until you try to create a new script.”

“I don’t need to outsource my need for love, acceptance, or approval because I love, accept, and approve of my inner child daily.”

👫🏻 This book has helped me have a better understanding of myself as well as my relationship dynamic with my partner (we both have avoidance attachments), my needs and fears, better approaches and what a secure relationship should look like.


🧠 Overall, this book offers a variety of important topics and thought-provoking content that is a lot to digest in one sitting. You will want to take your time by breaking it up into small doses and revisit often. Practicing every day will be vital, as it takes time and showing up to rewire our brains. Very insightful into your inner self. I love that it ends with connecting with nature and what is meaningful for a well balanced mind m-body-soul journey.


Thanks to NetGalley, New Harbinger Publications, and Jennifer Nurick for providing me with a complimentary ARC to review!

 

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